Face Reading (Mian Xiang)

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10 Ways Face Reading Enhances Your Life

The benefits of Face Reading are numerous and varied. Face Reading takes you beyond mere empathy and intuition - you will be able to come to decisions about others using a finely tuned, concrete system. The ability to accurately weigh up others - to detect talent and worth or deceit and insincerity - is vital for success in all aspects of life.

1) Become A People Person

Face Reading becomes second nature very quickly. With practice, you will be able to swiftly and decisively figure out the personalities of those around you from little more than a subtle glance at their face. The most successful businessmen and romantic figures understand the personalities, needs and pitfalls of others and interact with them accordingly. Perfect your interactions with those around you and let the benefits pour into your life.

2) See Strengths & Weaknesses, Hidden To Everyone Else

We all have our own character, strength and weaknesses. Figuring out where the weaknesses and strengths of others lie is usually a time consuming prospect; after all, how can you know how a person is truly composed until you have observed them for a long period of time? The problem is that by the time we realise someone may not live up to our expectations a lot of time, money or heart has already been invested in them. No longer! Calculate and leverage the strengths of those at your workplace and uncover their motivations so you can really speak to them and get them on your page, doing what you need them to. You can even capitalise on the weaknesses or deficiencies of your competitors whilst they learn nothing about you in return. A wealth of information in your hands only, thanks to the teachings of Face Reading.

3) Navigate Emotional Minefields

A good leader improves the lives of those around them and in turn commands respect, loyalty and even affection. Take note of the feelings of others and then help them deal with problems and negative emotions. Emotions affect work, relationships - productivity, morale and the bottom line. It is in your best interests to help those you deal with to cope with their issues and lead better lives.

4) IQ Test

You can tell how intelligent someone is from their face! The intelligent are worth their weight in gold. They make superior workers and managers and contribute more, more often. Research has shown that partners of matched intelligence have a superior chance of staying together, too! A CV can be forged, but the human face gives away all the secrets of the mind - there is simply no faster gauge of IQ. Pick the very best from the crowd with ease.

5) How High Can Others Go?

Not everyone is destined to reach the top. We all have an innate wealth potential which can be read from the face; if you now where to look. You can pick those who truly have success down from those who simply brag about themselves and their chances. Separate the time wasters from the worthy when pursuing and closing high end deals and take the fastest, smoothest elevator ride to the top!

6) Get The Best People On Your Side

The people around you make or break projects. They determine whether you sink or swim. You need to be surrounded by determined, talented individuals of the finest calibre who have a real desire to help you bring your dreams to life. Face Reading is the secret intelligence gathering tool that will let you seek out and collect these rare, sought after people for your team in the easiest way. Don't take blind chances on who you surround yourself with.

7) Avoid Fraud

Police use the startlingly accurate art and science of Face Reading during their investigations to help them identify criminals and crooks. Now you, too, can predict possibilities for fraud and avoid those with the potential to do you harm in your work and social environment. Be alert.

8) Detect Insincerity When The Chips Are Down

Relationships can be tough. Feelings of doubt and insecurities can ruin even the most beautiful relationship. Equally, we can be heart broken by the insincerity of a partner. When you become adept at Face Reading, you will gain the ability to spot lies and intentions so that when something is wrong, you are the first to know about it. Knowing exactly where you stand with your partner at all times also means that when the good times really are flowing you can enjoy them with absolute peace of mind and security. Become instinctively aware of your partners needs to that you can fulfil them completely. Face Reading is the next best thing to mind reading for those in a relationship they wish to honour.

9) No Conflict

Nobody wants conflict in their home or marriage, yet conflict arises more often than anyone would like from a lack of communication and understanding. More fully understanding the nature of your spouse or family member will help you dodge conflict triggers and integrate better. Every spouse and every interpersonal relationship is different so no single approach will "fix all". Learn how to correctly deal with each cherished person in your life for maximum benefit and you may find that your relationships reach a new level of intimacy and strength. Never argue again.

10) Delegate With Certainty

Most business owners would agree that delegation can sometimes turn out to be more time consuming and frustrating as those chosen are unable or unwilling to correctly perform tasks assigned to them. As the old saying goes; "if you want something done right, do it yourself." There are, however, always people capable of taking a task you assign and completing it, to an excellent standard, with initiative and pride. Find these crucial people and see your productivity soar as you outsource tasks both menial and important knowing they will be completed correctly, giving you more free time to focus on the things that matter to you. Spot the bad apples long before you trust them with your workload.

Three Managerial Skills

Conceptual Skills

Conceptual Skills are the skills managers must have to think and to conceptualize about abstract and complex situations. Using these skills, managers must be able to see the organization as a whole, understand the relationships among various subunits, and visualize how the organization fits into its broader environment. These skills are most important at the top level management

Human Skills

Human Skills involve the ability to work well with other people both individually and in group. Because managers deal directly with people, this skill is crucial! Managers with good human skills are able to get the best out of their people. They know how to communicate, motivate, lead, and inspire enthusiasm and trust. These skills are equally important low level (first line) management, middle level management and top level management.

Technical Skills

Technical Skills include knowledge of and proficiency in certain specialized field, such as engineering, computers, accounting, or manufacturing. These skills are more important at lower level management since these managers are dealing directly with employees doing the organizational work.

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Love Yourself - Kamal Ravikant

Love Yourself Like your Life Depends On It

What is this about?

Loving yourself. Same thing your mom told you, same thing self-help books repeat enough times to be cliché. But there is a difference. It's not lip service. It's not a fire and forget type approach. It's something I learned from within myself, something I believe saved me. And more than that, the way I set about to do it. Most of it, simple enough to be idiotic. But in simplicity lies truth. In simplicity lies power.

As a wise friend likes to remind me, this is a practice. You don't go to the gym once and consider yourself done. Same here. Meditation is a practice. Working out is a practice. Loving yourself, perhaps the most important of all, is a practice.

The truth is to love yourself with the same intensity you would use to pull yourself up if you were hanging off a cliff with your fingers. As if your life depended upon it. Once you get going, it's not hard to do. Just takes commitment and I'll share how I did it.

It's been transformative for me. I know it will be transformative for you as well.

The Practice

I've tried to break down exactly what I did that worked. And how one can replicate it. Comes down to three things:

Mental Loop: The one thought running constantly through one's mind must be "I love myself. I love myself. I love myself."
A Meditation : Meditate 10 minutes daily using a 110Hz sound and chant "I love myself. I love myself. I love myself."
One Question : Do you love your self truly? Yes? Then never ever demean yourself; never ever debase yourself in negativity. Look positively at yourself and your life; open to all possibilities of a great life!

All three gently return me to self-love. That's the beauty of this practice. It's simple, it's practical, and the results are far greater than you could imagine.

After all, if you loved yourself truly and deeply, would you limit your life to what you previously thought possible? Nope. You'd blow your own socks off.

There is one requirement. A fierce commitment to loving yourself. This, I'm afraid, can't be skipped. What if you don't believe that you love or, heck, even like yourself? Doesn't matter. If you have to build up to it, that's ok. The practice works in a way the mind is designed to function. The mind has no choice but to adapt and respond.

Just remain open to the possibility of loving yourself. The rest is easy.

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"Greatest Love Of All"

I believe the children are our future

Teach them well and let them lead the way

Show them all the beauty they possess inside

Give them a sense of pride to make it easier

Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be

Everybody's searching for a hero

People need someone to look up to

I never found anyone who fulfilled my needs

A lonely place to be

And so I learned to depend on me

[Chorus:]

I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadows

If I fail, if I succeed

At least I'll live as I believe

No matter what they take from me

They can't take away my dignity

Because the greatest love of all

Is happening to me

I found the greatest love of all

Inside of me

The greatest love of all

Is easy to achieve

Learning to love yourself

It is the greatest love of all

I believe the children are our future

Teach them well and let them lead the way

Show them all the beauty they possess inside

Give them a sense of pride to make it easier

Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be

[Chorus]

And if, by chance, that special place

That you've been dreaming of

Leads you to a lonely place

Find your strength in love

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LIFE IS A STATE OF MIND

Stereo View Mandala

Color Stereo
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3D Stereo
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Stereo Viewing is a technique wherein a pair of images are viewed in a particular way, resulting to the pair of images to converge or coalesce to a single image (or third image).

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Emotional Quotient

How Good Are Your People Skills?

Soft skills enhance your technical skills.

In almost all jobs, your people skills – also known as "soft skills" – have as much of an impact on your success as your technical skills. That's especially true when you're in a management or leadership role.

The importance of having solid people skills transcends industry and profession; so, whether you lead people, aspire to lead people, or work within a team of professionals, you need to apply people skills to achieve your objectives.

So, how good are your people skills? Take this short quiz to assess your current skill levels. Once you've answered these questions, we can then point you toward specific tools and resources that you can use to develop and improve this important area of competency.

How Good Are Your People Skills?

Take the online test below, and click the "Calculate my total" button at the foot of the test to assess your people skills.

Instructions:

For each statement, click the button in the column that best describes you. Please answer questions as you actually are (rather than how you think you should be), and don't worry if some questions seem to score in the 'wrong direction'. When you are finished, please click the 'Calculate My Total' button at the bottom of the test.

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I make sure that I display the same standards of behavior that I expect from other people.

When providing feedback, I wait until I've observed enough incidents of a behavior to make a generalized statement that is accurate.

I go along with others' decisions rather than inject my ideas into the mix.

I say "thank you" to the people I work with.

During times of conflict I think about how to preserve the relationship and still get my needs met.

While actively talking with someone, I have composed my answer before they have finished speaking.

I look out for myself at work and do what is necessary to get ahead.

I think about how others perceive a problem or issue.

I speak first, and think later.

I collaborate with others to solve problems using a variety of problem solving tools and techniques.

I cause more harm than good when trying to resolve a conflict.

When someone gives me feedback, I ask him or her to provide examples so that I can better understand the issue.

I pay attention to other people's body language.

Where team agreement is necessary, I figure out the best solution to a problem and then explain why it's the right decision.

I study my audiences' needs, decide what I want to say and then figure out the best way to say it.

I make sure everyone knows about my contribution to a positive outcome.

Total =

Score Interpretation

Score	Comment
16– 36	Your technical skills may have taken precedence over your people skills in your career to date. You aren't making the most of the relationships you have at work, and this may be limiting your career growth. It's time to assess how you can work better with others in the workplace and develop a more collaborative, understanding, and open approach to getting your needs met – while still achieving team and organizational objectives. (Read below to start.)
37– 58	You recognize that working well with others in the workplace is important; and you are trying to work collaboratively while still making sure your needs are met. There is room for improvement, however, as old habits may creep in during times of stress and pressure. Make a plan to work actively on your people skills so that they form the natural basis for how you approach workplace relationships. (Read below to start.)
59– 80	Your people skills are good. You understand the give and take involved in complex issues involving people. You might not always approach situations perfectly, however you have a sufficiently good understanding to know when and where you need to take steps to rectify things. Keep working on your people skills, and set an example for the rest of your team. And take some time to work on the specific areas below where you lost points. (Read below to start.)

The quiz assesses your skills according to the four main themes below. Review your scores for each theme, and read more where you need to.

Interpersonal Communication Skills

(Statements 6, 9, 13, 15)

Your score is 16 out of 20

Many people spend more time working with other people than they do with processes or products. This means that they need to communicate well with others, and this makes communication skills some of the most important skills in the workplace.

Some of the key communication stumbling block to be aware of include:

Message barriers: These occur when the person communicating fails to communicate clearly.
If you find that you often confuse people, then a good starting point for fixing this is to figure out what you want to say. Do you want to persuade? Are you trying to motivate? Are you simply informing? Or are you attempting to build a relationship? The purpose of your communication will largely determine what you say and how you say it, and our article on Communications Planningshows you how to prepare for a variety of communication exchanges.
Receiving barriers: These barriers occur on the receiver's end of the communication, and they typically result from ineffective listening. We hear and understand faster than we speak, and this can lead to boredom and a wandering mind when on the listening end of communication.
To combat this you should try to listen actively to what the speaker is saying. When you engage active listening you respond in a way that makes it clear that you understand the feelings and intent of the speaker. In our article Active Listening, you'll find some useful guidelines to follow when you are on the receiving end of communication.
Decoding barriers: Here the real message is not fully grasped or translated because of misperceptions, misinterpretations or missing information.
The most common problem here is with mismatched non-verbal communication. A lot of non-verbal communication is unconscious – meaning that the sender isn't aware of the messages he or she is sending, yet these messages can reveal a great deal of someone's true thoughts.
If you can learn to understand people's non-verbal communication, you can improve your people skills significantly. Our article on Body Language will show you how to understand other people's non-verbal communication – and manage your own.

For more on improving your communication skills see the Club Communicate! Learning Stream, and visit our Communication Skills main page.

Managing Differences

(Statements 3, 5, 8, 11)

Your score is 14 out of 20

People can seem to disagree about almost anything – what caused a problem, how to solve it, what values are right, what values are wrong, what goals should be pursued; the list goes on! On top of this, you have the personal, non-job-related differences between people that lead to obvious differences in outlook and approach.

Because of this, respecting and managing the differences between people can be one of the most important skills you can develop! Indeed, it can be a huge advantage if you learn to celebrate and enjoy differences, and make them work to your advantage.

Key to this is recognizing that, in many cases, conflict is not "bad". In fact, conflict often causes significant, positive change. It spawns creative and novel approaches to problem solving, and can actually improve organizational performance if managed properly. In our article on Resolving Team Conflict, we discuss how you can build stronger teams by facing and embracing personal differences. And then, with ourConflict Resolution tool, we outline how to use the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach for solving interpersonal issues. Both of these articles outline how you can emerge from conflict with strong and healthy relationships.

When resolving conflict, it helps a lot if you can understand other people's needs and points of view – this can often help you find solutions that may otherwise not have occurred to you. And when you take the time to understand another person's perspective, you are demonstrating your willingness to work together to find a solution. Our articles on Empathy at Work and Perceptual Positions can help you develop this aspect of people skills. These help you to adopt different vantage points when resolving differences.

Finally, you need to be appropriately assertive if you're going to manage differences effectively. Aggression is clearly counter-productive if you're trying to resolve conflict, but also, if you fail to recognize your own needs in a situation, you run the risk of agreeing to a solution that works against your own interests. Again, it's important to remember that differences aren't necessarily negative, so suppressing your thoughts and ideas just to come to an easy agreement isn't effective or efficient. You can read more about assertiveness in the article here. And our piece "Yes to the Person, No to the Task" is a useful approach to use in everyday situations where you need to manage differences assertively and effectively.

Managing Agreement

(Statements 2, 10, 12, 14)

Your score is 11 out of 20

While managing differences may be an obvious application of people skills, managing agreement may not seem to be. However, helping people come to an agreement with one-another is important, and requires a great deal of skill!

"Synergy" is one of the most important things that you're looking for with teamwork. This is where the team's output is better or greater than the sum of each individual's input. To achieve synergy, you need to get people working together collaboratively.

If you've ever participated in a team decision-making process, you probably realize that reaching a decision by yourself can be much more straightforward! The problem with individual decision-making, though, is that you miss out on all of the insights that other people can give. With strong people skills, you don't need to back away from collaborative situations: you can approach team meetings with a genuinely positive attitude!

Tip:
When you're engaging in group decision-making, make sure you avoid the common pitfalls. See our article on Groupthink for more!

Part of this involves feeling comfortable with different kinds of questions, and with when to use them, and how. In our article on Questioning Techniques, we look at open and closed questions, as well as other common types of question that you can use to keep conversation flowing and get the specific information you need.

As well as this, it's useful to have a good selection of problem solving tools in your arsenal. When you are confident in your ability to find solutions you will be more likely to participate in these conversations and add value to your team. In our articleOpening Closed Minds, we show you how to get your point across effectively, so that you can reach the agreement you are seeking. These types of tools will give you the confidence you need to confront differences, knowing that you can also manage the agreement side of the equation.

Another aspect of managing agreement relates to feedback. When given poorly, people reject feedback: it's viewed as destructive criticism, and it can damage relationships. Delivered well, however, feedback can lead to an improved understanding of one another's needs and perspectives, as well as improving performance and productivity. We look at this in detail in our article, Giving and Receiving Feedback. Also, in our article looking at the Johari Window we outline a great technique for increasing interpersonal understanding through self-disclosure.

The bottom line is that, to develop strong people skills, you need to be able to accept what others are saying and learn from this. Not only will this help you personally, it will help you relate openly and honestly with others.

Personal Integrity

(Statements 1, 4, 7, 16)

Your score is 18 out of 20

Integrity is the cornerstone of people skills. Integrity means basic honesty and truthfulness when dealing with others. It also means working with people openly, and in such a way that people's interests aren't compromised for the sake of the team or the organization.

Basic courtesies like saying “thank you" often, and giving credit where it is due, are the types of people-oriented behaviors that can make all of the difference to other people. Whether you are in a leadership position or not, recognizing your teammates' contributions and acknowledging their efforts will go a long way towards creating a positive, harmonious, and productive team climate. Our articles onRewarding Your Team, Leading by Example, and Ethical Leadership are all great resources that help you learn how to behave with integrity on a daily basis.

Key Points:

With well-developed people skills, you can communicate effectively on an interpersonal level; manage conflict positively; work productively with others to find solutions and reach agreement; and work with integrity and ethics to motivate and inspire others.

These are all skills that can be learned and developed. Even the most technically-oriented worker can begin to incorporate people skills in his or her work setting.

Best of all, people skills are not limited to the workplace. When worked on actively, they will enrich all aspects of your professional and personal life.