Emotional Walls - Dr. Bradley Nelson

Walls built upon negative experiences do initially protect oneself from further emotional harm. But the same walls will ultimately harm oneself and others arising from prolonged disconnection. Break down the walls and be encourage to connect emotionally again.

Most people think of the brain as the core of a human being, housing emotions, memories and thoughts, and controlling all bodily functions. But consider this:

* The heart generates 60-to-1000 times more power and electromagnetic energy than the brain, making by far it the most powerful organ in the human body.

* When a fetus is in the womb, its heart forms first, before the brain.

* If the heart's connection to the brain were severed, it would keep right on beating, pumping blood to the rest of the body. No other organs are capable of this.

It is your heart that defines you. Your heart is the core of your being, not your brain.

In the 1970s, a new branch of medicine called neurocardiology was created when scientists discovered that the heart has its own elaborate nervous system. It sends information to the brain and the body with each and every heartbeat.

Fascinating new research proves the heart produces a powerful magnetic field that extends out from the body up to twelve feet in diameter. Using sophisticated magnetic measuring devices, scientists have shown that when one person is feeling love or affection for another person, their heart-waves become instantly measurable in the brain-waves of the other person.

It appears the heart has its own powerful and unique intelligence, which tells us that it's not simply the organ that pumps our blood and keeps us alive. Take the large number of heart transplant recipients who've reported incredible changes after transplant surgery. There have been reports of odd new cravings, handwriting changes, musical preferences, and even strange new memories that don't seem to be their own. These are simply transplanted along with the heart, and the recipient experiences them as if they were his own, just like the heart's previous owner did.

Scientifically speaking, these cravings, preferences and memories are made of energy, just as all other things around us are. Emotions are no different. Emotions like "heartache" and "heartbreak", describe the physical sensations that occur in the heart during strong emotional situations; they are made of pure energy, and named after their physical effects on the body. In fact such as "anger", "grief" and "fear," often get stuck in the body's energy field; these are called Trapped Emotions. When Trapped Emotions gather around the heart, they form what is called a Heart-Wall, a protective energetic barrier created by the subconscious mind. Heart-Walls are invisible, just like ultraviolet light or the vast majority of the electromagnetic spectrum, but their energy is very real and quite powerful, and can have an incredible effect on people's lives.

So the phrase "putting up a wall" actually has a basis in reality! Heart-Walls are protective, but the problem is this: the wall is made up of negative emotions- negative energy. Because of this, anyone with a Heart-Wall can't give or receive love fully, since all messages coming into the heart or going out are muffled by the negative energy of the Trapped Emotions. Someone could be sending out pure love to you, but that love has to somehow get past the barrier of "sadness" and "anger" that envelops your heart. As a result, the message gets muddled, and you can go through your entire life without feeling what it really is to love with all your heart, or even simply identify with others. You could be continually insulated from other people forever, even your own family.

Heart-Walls are responsible for a host of problems. They cause depression, divorce, abuse, misunderstanding, and even prejudice, hatred and brutality. On a global scale, Heart-Walls lead to ethnic cleansing, nation against nation, terrorism, and war. Our world could be a much different place if all people could feel pure love without the muffling barrier of the Heart-Wall!

Like so many of our natural defenses, a Heart-Wall can be helpful, but only in the short-term. The subconscious automatically creates the Heart-Wall to protect you from unbearable emotional pain. But until you get rid of it, your heart will be somewhat blocked and you'll be less able to reach out and connect with people - even the ones you love most. If your city is being bombed, it's a good idea to hide out in a bunker until it's all over. But you wouldn't want to live there permanently, or you'd miss out on life! The same is true for your Heart-Wall. No matter how valuable it was when created, you will live a happier, more full life when you can rid yourself of its negative energy. Releasing the Heart-Wall can truly make the difference between living a life of disappointment, and living happily ever after.

Traits of Mind Control - Rafael Martinez

To help you understand what constitutes mind control, we list these traits here which can be used to discern the subtle difference betweeen the healthy and toxic influences you may be facing in your life.

CHARISMATIC LEADERSHIP - the unquestioned obedience and submission to the claimed authority, divine appointment, and knowledge of a central leader or group of leaders who demand such obedience to prove the individual's faith, motives, integrity and trustworthiness.

TOTALITARIAN WORLD VIEW - a "we-versus-they" view of the outside world designed to enhance the group's identity, goals, and welfare at the expense of the individual. Group members are the heroic "good guys", and outsiders are the villainous "bad guys."

ELITISM - benefits of belonging are unobtainable to outsiders but available to the loyal only through association with the group - from personal empowerment and spiritual highs to fulfillment and ultimate salvation. The group views itself as the only one with "the truth" and lives accordingly.

DECEPTION - the group's free usage of dishonesty, falsehoods and questionable claims in both it's indoctrination of new members and it's rejection of "outsiders" who seem critical of the group. Any media and literature used may be characterized by deceptive and misleading claims.

ALIENATION - the group's active encouragement of it's members to remain separate from those family, friends and parts of society opposed to group ideals. The outside world is viewed as sinful, ignorant, Satanic and must be fully withdrawn from - thus reinforcing the group's control.

FATIGUE - the deprivation of members of sleep, needed rest times and free time with the insistence that long hours of work and meetings are a means of demonstrating true faith, real dedication to a cause, or determination to succeed. The effects of mental fatigue impair the individual's ability to critically think or even rationally function, leaving them open to manipulation.

FEAR - the usage of continuously overemphasized phobias (irrational fears) to control members (some of these being programmed fears of hell, fear of the government, fear of certain objects, fear of business loss, fear of the "world order", fear of displeasing God and others, fear of the devil, fear of other races, fear of displeasing the group's leaders and mentors and fear of losing close ties to the group)

EXPLOITATION - a broad trait ranging from pressure to give all of one's wealth and time to the group to the usage of guilt, secrecy and emotional manipulation to maintain control: the threat of expulsion is a particularly powerful leverage of control, as is verbal, sexual and even physical violence.

CHANGE IN DIET - under nourishment as well as unhealthy nutrition used to keep members mentally dulled and thereby less able to engage in independent thinking - the greatest enemy of destructive cult groups. Mind-altering toxins, drugs and chemicals are used in some foods sometimes in deliberate fashion.

LACK OF PRIVACY - individuals are not allowed moments of private solitude or contemplation which may lead to independent thought: frequently, group members live and function in society together, and monitor each other closely (particularly in family situations) to ensure conformity to the group's proscribed lifestyle.

These traits are all designed to accomplish one central cult goal: indoctrination into the group's belief system with a simultaneous shutdown of independent thought.

The nature and precise details of that belief system will differ sharply from group to cause to philosophy to study group, but the human dynamics involved are always the same. When you find a group of warm, friendly people who have all the answers, whose group claims to speak for God or possess "true enlightenment" exclusively and encourages you to stop thinking for yourself, you have found a destructive cult - no matter what the label, exterior reputation or collection of testimonies would say otherwise.

The Mozart Effect

J S Jenkins, MD FRCP
40 Hampstead Way, London NW11 7JL, UK

In 1993 Rauscher et al.1 made the surprising claim that, after listening to Mozart's sonata for two pianos (K448) for 10 minutes, normal subjects showed significantly better spatial reasoning skills than after periods of listening to relaxation instructions designed to lower blood pressure or silence. The mean spatial IQ scores were 8 and 9 points higher after listening to the music than in the other two conditions. The enhancing effect did not extend beyond 10-15 minutes. These results proved controversial. Some investigators were unable to reproduce the findings but others confirmed that listening to Mozart's sonata K448 produced a small increase in spatial-temporal performance, as measured by various tests derived from the Stanford—Binet scale such as paper-cutting and folding procedures or pencil-and-paper maze tasks. However, Rauscher has stressed that the Mozart effect is limited to spatial temporal reasoning and that there is no enhancement of general intelligence; some of the negative results, she thinks, may have been due to inappropriate test procedures.

So, does the Mozart effect exist? The generality of the original positive findings has been criticized on the grounds that any Mozart effect is due to `enjoyment arousal' occasioned by this particular music and would not take place in the absence of its appreciation. This interpretation is countered by animal experiments in which separate groups of rats were exposed, in utero followed by a postpartum period of 60 days, to Mozart's piano sonata K448, to minimalist music by the composer Philip Glass, to white noise or to silence and then tested for their ability to negotiate a maze. The Mozart group completed the maze test significantly more quickly and with fewer errors than the other three groups; thus, enjoyment and musical appreciation is unlikely to have been the basis of the improvement.


LOCALIZATION OF MUSIC PERCEPTION AND SPATIAL IMAGING WITHIN THE BRAIN
An explanation for the results obtained after listening to music may lie in the manner in which music and spatial imaging are processed within the brain. There have been many studies on the localization of music perception. Techniques such as positron emission tomography (PET) and functional magnetic resonance scanning, together with studies on localized brain lesions, have shown that listening to music activates a wide distribution of brain areas. The primary auditory area lies classically in the transverse and superior temporal gyri, but particular components of musical appreciation involving rhythm, pitch, metre, melody, and timbre are processed in many different areas of the brain. These range from the prefrontal cortex and superior temporal gyrus to the precuneus of the parietal lobe, with much interconnection of the different networks activated. Rhythm and pitch discrimination are processed mainly in the left hemisphere whereas timbre and melody are found chiefly in the right. Appreciation of metre does not appear to show hemispheric preference.

Brain areas concerned with mental imaging as tested by spatial temporal tasks (such as the building of three-dimensional cube assemblies in sequence) were also mapped by PET scanning. The results show that the areas activated include the prefrontal, temporal and precuneus regions which overlap with those involved in music processing. It is suggested, therefore, that listening to music would prime the activation of those areas of the brain which are concerned with spatial reasoning.


LONG-TERM EFFECTS OF MUSIC ON THE BRAIN
The original experiments on adults exposed to Mozart's music were of short duration only. In related experiments, long-term effects of music were studied in groups of pre-school children aged 3-4 years who were given keyboard music lessons for six months, during which time they studied pitch intervals, fingering techniques, sight reading, musical notation and playing from memory. At the end of training all the children were able to perform simple melodies by Beethoven and Mozart. When they did they were then subjected to spatial-temporal reasoning tests calibrated for age, and their performance was more than 30% better than that of children of similar age given either computer lessons for 6 months or no special training. The improvement was limited to spatial-temporal reasoning; there was no effect on spatial recognition. The effect lasted unchanged for 24 hours after the end of the music lessons but the precise duration of the enhancement was not further explored. The longer duration of the effects than in previous reports was attributed to the length of exposure to music and the greater plasticity of the young brain. In further experiments of this kind it has been claimed that the enhancement of spatial-temporal reasoning in children after piano training has resulted in significantly greater scores in higher mathematics.


MUSIC AND THE ELECTROENCEPHALOGRAPHIC PATTERN
Attempts have been made to investigate the electrical discharge patterns of brain areas after exposure to music. In one study, listening to the Mozart sonata K448 for 10 minutes, in contrast to listening to a short story, resulted in enhanced synchrony of the firing pattern of the right frontal and left temporoparietal areas of the brain, which persisted for 12 minutes6. Listening to the sonata was also accompanied by increased power of the beta spectrum of the electroencephalogram in the right temporal, left temporal and right frontal regions. In a further study, listening to music (not that of Mozart) also resulted in greater beta power, particularly in the area of the precuneus bilaterally.


MOZART EFFECT ON EPILEPSY
A more impressive indication of a Mozart effect is to be seen in epilepsy. In 23 of 29 patients with focal discharges or bursts of generalized spike and wave complexes who listened to the Mozart piano sonata K448 there was a significant decrease in epileptiform activity as shown by the electroencephalogram (EEG). Some individual patients showed especially striking improvement. In one male, unconscious with status epilepticus, ictal patterns were present 62% of the time, whereas during exposure to Mozart's music this value fell to 21%. In two other patients with status epilepticus continuous bilateral spike and wave complexes were recorded 90-100% of the time before the music, suddenly falling to about 50% 5 minutes after the music began. The fact that improvement took place even in a comatose patient demonstrates again that appreciation of the music is not a necessary feature of the Mozart effect.

To determine whether this music could exert a longer effect, studies were conducted in an eight-year-old girl with a particularly intractable form of childhood epilepsy, the Lennox—Gastaut syndrome, with many drop attacks accompanied by bilateral spike and wave complexes and focal discharges from the right posterior temporal area. Mozart's sonata was played every 10 minutes for each hour of the day when she was awake. At the end of the waking period the number of clinical seizures had fallen from 9 during the initial four hours to one during the last four hours and the number of seconds during which general discharges occurred fell from 317 to 178. The following day the number of attacks was two in seven and half hours.


SPECIFICITY OF MOZART'S MUSIC
To what extent are the changes attributable specifically to Mozart's music? Following the initial experiments of Rauscher et al.1 most researchers have used Mozart's double piano sonata K448, which the Mozart authority Alfred Einstein called `one of the most profound and most mature of all Mozart's compositions', but his piano concerto no 23 in A major K488 also proved to be effective. Some investigators observed that no enhancement of spatial temporal tests was seen after the minimalist music of Philip Glass, and there was no improvement in epileptiform EEG tracings after old-time pop music. Rideout et al., however, report that a contemporary composition by the Greek-American musician Yanni, which they suggest is similar to the Mozart sonata in tempo, structure, melody and harmony, was also effective. In an attempt to determine the physical characteristics which were responsible for the Mozart effect, Hughes and Fino subjected a wide range of music to computer analysis. As many as 81 selections of Mozart, 67 of J C Bach, 67 of J S Bach, 39 of Chopin, and 148 from 55 other composers were analysed. The characteristic shown by much of Mozart's music and shared with the two Bachs was a high degree of long-term periodicity, especially within the 10-60 s range.

Another similarity between the music of Mozart and the two Bachs was the emphasis on the average power of particular notes, notably G3 (196 Hz), C5 (523 Hz) and B5 (987 Hz). In contrast, Philip Glass' minimalist music and old-time pop music, which had both proved without effect on spatial behavioural tasks or on epilepsy, showed little long-term periodicity. It is suggested that music with a high degree of long-term periodicity, whether of Mozart or other composers, would resonate within the brain to decrease seizure activity and to enhance spatial-temporal performance.


CONCLUSION
An enhancement of spatial-temporal reasoning performance after listening to Mozart's music for 10 minutes has been reported by several, but not all, researchers. Even in the studies with positive results the enhancement is small and lasts about 12 minutes. The effect varies between individuals and depends upon the spatial tasks chosen; general intelligence is not affected. Rather more impressively, there is a beneficial effect on some patients with epilepsy. The results are not specific to Mozart's compositions but the exact musical criteria required have not been completely defined.

The practical use of such observations is as yet uncertain, especially since many of the experiments relate only to short listening periods to Mozart's piano sonata K448. More studies are necessary, involving longer-term exposure to Mozart and to a wide selection of other composers, before the effect can be fully assessed.


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Monitor Eye Strain - David Michalczyk

As many people do I often spend long hours in front of the computer. This can be tough on the eyes if one is not careful. During my 20 years of computer use I worked out a series of habits and techniques that help minimize that strain. I'm sure you will also find them helpful:

Low contrast work environment. I light my workspace with a 2 x 60W lamps so my workspace is evenly lit and the contrast between the monitor and the rest of the room is minimal. I position the lamps in such a way so each pans directly at the wall it stands next to and is placed slightly behind the line of the monitor. The light bounces off the walls and this produces a nice soft ambient illumination. I found that the lower the contrast between the room and the monitor the less strain is put on the eyes. But, you can try the opposite and sit in a dark room and look onto a bright PC display. You will get quickly tired in your eyes.

Refresh rate. This refers to how often the screen is being updated. I found the best refresh rate to be between 85 Hz and 120 Hz on CRT monitors. If your screen is flickering, it's probably due to low refresh rate. You can adjust this by right clicking on the desktop and locating the appropriate tab.

High quality cables. Low quality cables that connect your computer and the screen can cause massive interference like vertical or horizontal bars, blurred fonts, and similar. So if you are having such problems replacing the cables might be an easy solution (no need to buy a new monitor yet). Finally, as each additional connector degenerates the signal don't use extension cords. Use a longer cable instead.

Use quality monitor and graphic card. Don't buy cheap clones or other low cost solutions. They don't last long and often have problems with higher refresh rates at higher resolutions. It's better to invest in something more expensive that will last you much longer and provide better functionality.

Take frequent breaks. I take mine every 30 minutes. A few minutes off the screen is usually sufficient for shorter breaks. Actually, my daily routine is structured in such a way that I get 2 - 3 longer breaks each lasting 30 - 45 minutes. These are when I cook and eat food, which is a natural break every 3 hours or so.

Relax your eyes. There are many ways to do that. I developed a simple and effective method that consists of two steps. First gently massage your muscles around the eye sockets, including the area just around the eye itself. This typically takes me up to a couple of minutes. Then I sit back (or lie down) in a relaxed position and put a piece of dark blanket (or whatever will work) over my face so no light can pass through. I close my eyes and consciously relax my eyes and muscles in my whole body. This is great for eliminating muscle tension and after about 15 minutes my eyes feel refreshed and relaxed.

Lower the screen contrast. If you work with graphics or frequently view images onscreen you should properly adjust your gamma settings. This is important. Otherwise the images you see may look too dark or too bright, and the colors may not be as they were intended to be seen. However, if you primarily use your computer for text based activities, like reading and writing, you can lower the monitor brightness/contrast and reduce the monitor color temperature to around 6000. I have two main computers. One for art and the other for doing text based activities (email, internet, programming, research, etc), and the difference is big. You can adjust these through the front panel of your monitor.

Adjust your onscreen working environment. Basically, I adjust everything I see on screen to be easy on the eyes. Window layout style, desktop background, fonts (color, type and size), background/foreground colors, etc. Antialiased black fonts on a light grey background works best for me.

Stay healthy. There is no substitute for that. Eating a healthy diet that consists of natural and minimally processed or whole foods, regular exercise and a good nights sleep is essential for proper body function.

Finally, there are the very obvious ones like avoiding reflections and glares on the screen, minimize repetitive computer work (automate as much as you can), and avoid fluorescent lights.

All these simple adjustments can help keep your eyes rested. I think if you try any of these you will notice an improvement. Try one at a time to see how they work for you.

Friendliness

The Golden Rule of Friendship: Make Others Feel Good About Themselves

The principle is straightforward. If I meet you and make you feel good about yourself, you will like me and seek every opportunity to see me again to reconstitute the same good feeling you felt the first time we met. Unfortunately, this powerful technique is seldom used because we are continually focused on ourselves and not others. We put our wants and needs before the wants and needs of others. The irony is that people will fulfill your wants and needs in any way they can if they like you.

The simple communication techniques that follow will help you keep the focus of the conversation on the person you are talking to and make them feel good about themselves.

The Big Three

Our brains continually scan the environment for friend or foe signals. People who pose a threat give off foe cues and people who do not pose a threat give off friend cues. When you meet people, ensure that you send the right nonverbal cues that signal that you are not a threat. The three primary friend cues are the eyebrow flash, head tilt, and smile.

Eyebrow Flash

The eyebrow flash is a quick up and down movement of the eyebrows. As people approach one another they eyebrow flash each other to send the message that they do not pose a threat. Since eyebrow flashes can be seen at a distance, people typically eyebrow flash as they approach others.

Head Tilt

The head tilt is a slight tilt of the head to one side or the other. This cue signals that the approaching person is not a threat because they are exposing their carotid artery. The carotid artery is the primary source for blood to reach the brain and if disrupted, causes severe brain damage or death within minutes. Exposing the carotid artery sends the signal that the person exposing their carotid artery does not pose a threat nor does the person they are approaching pose a threat.

Smile

A smile sends the message "I like you." When you smile at someone, they have a hard time not returning the smile. A smile triggers a small endorphin release in the brain, which promotes a feeling of well-being. In other words, when you smile, you feel good about yourself. This supports the notion that people will like you if you make them feel good about themselves.

Empathic Statements

Empathic statements keep the focus on the other person. Because people are typically focused on themselves, they feel good about themselves when others make them the center of attention. Empathic statements capture a person's verbal message, physical status, or emotional feeling, and, using parallel language, reflects that verbal message, physical status, or emotional feeling back to that person. Avoid repeating back word for word what the person said. Parroting can sound patronizing and sometimes condescending. The basic formula for constructing empathic statements is "So you..." This basic formula keeps the focus on the other person and away from you. We naturally tend to say something to the effect, "I understand how you feel." The other person automatically thinks, "No, you don't know how I feel because you are not me." The basic formula ensures that the focus of the conversation remains on the person you are talking to.

Example 1

George: I've been really busy this week.

Tom: So you didn't have much free time in the last few days.

Once the basic formula for empathic statements has been mastered, more sophisticated empathic statements can be constructed by dropping "So you..."

Example 2

George: I've been really busy this week.

Tom: Free time has been at a premium in the last several days.

Flattery

The most effective way to flatter people is to allow them to flatter themselves. This technique avoids the problem of appearing insincere when complimenting someone. When people compliment themselves, sincerity is not an issue and people rarely miss an opportunity to flatter themselves. Consider the following examples:

Example 1

Henry: How do you manage to stay in shape with your busy schedule?

Example 2

Vickie: I haven't met one person who didn't like your home cooked pies.

Asking a Favor

Ben Franklin observed that if he asked a colleague for a favor, the colleague liked him more than if he did not ask him for a favor. This phenomenon became known as the Ben Franklin Effect. At first glance, this seems counterintuitive. If you ask a person for a favor, you would think you would like the person more because they did you a favor; however, this is not the case. When a person does someone a favor, they feel good about themselves. The Golden Rule states that if you make a person feel good about themselves, they will like you. Asking someone to do you a favor is not all about you. It is all about the person doing you the favor. Do not overuse this technique because Ben Franklin also said, "Guests, like fish begin to smell after three days" (as do people who ask too many favors.)

Getting people to like you is easy if you follow the Golden Rule. The hard part is following the Golden Rule because we must put the interest of others above our own.

Forgiveness by Zeenat

Forgiveness is about release, releasing yourself from the self-imposed limitations and self-defeating behavior patterns that tie you to the past in unhealthy ways. Forgiveness is about releasing your anger, fear, pain and resentment and opening your heart to joy, peace and love.

It means that you will no longer allow the past to have a hold on your life; that you are willing to release the hurt and the pain; that you no longer wish to be tied to the past in a negative way; that you are freeing yourself from the ties that hold you back from living the life you deserve to live. Easy to say, not always so easy to do.

Reasons to practice forgiveness

If you have been nurturing a grudge against somebody for a while, then maybe, its time for you to let it go. It might be the healthiest decision you might make in your life!

Here’s Why: Forgiveness is the key to great emotional, psychological and physical health.

I remember an intelligent woman I counseled a few years ago who had to leave her successful career due to debilitating dizziness spells. It transpired that as a child she had been severely bullied by her elder sister. I checked with her if she was ready to forgive her estranged sister. Though she dismissed my query, she came back the following week looking visibly at peace.

It turns out that, after some deliberation she had in fact sent out a ‘forgiveness email’ to her sister. She got a prompt, warm and loving reply and suddenly felt “years of bitterness falling away”. However, what was most amazing was that there was a remarkable decline in her spells of dizziness and soon she resumed work!

Don’t underestimate the power of forgiveness

Admittedly, not all recoveries are so sensational. At times, the process of forgiveness might take a little longer.

As for unforgiving people – they are prone to cardiovascular problems, chronic back pain, impaired neurological functioning, suppressed immunity, anxiety and depression, not to mention lack of a social life, as every grudge is hoarded and nurtured till the world seems hostile.

In the past few years, I have observed many of my patients truly heal after letting go of grudges and forgiving.

Forgiveness Skills

I can say from my own experience that building my own forgiveness skills has been very liberating. I feel very much at peace with my family, friends and acquaintances.

Forgiveness should be incorporated into our personality, be made a way of life, not merely a response to specific insults.

Here are some tips to develop your forgiveness skills:

• Find time everyday to meditate. Do deep breathing and scan your mind for any resentment you are keeping locked in. Visualize it as a tight knot holding you down. Breathe into it slowly. Imagine it slowly melting away and leaving you feeling light and free.
• Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. It’s not about excusing the other person or condoning the behaviors. Just letting go of your own suffering.
• If there is deep seated hostility against somebody from the past, writing a forgiveness letter to that person will help. If you do not want to mail it, then throw it or burn it and imagine your feelings of revenge disappearing too. A daily ritual of writing forgiveness notes can be a useful safety valve for your healing.
• There might be people who are insensitive, inconsiderate and abusive at times. Do not let their negative vibe rub off on you. Move to a higher level of being. Keep your mind and the energy around you free and uncontaminated.

Don’t leave yourself out of the forgiveness loop!

And most importantly of all, remember to forgive yourself, for not being perfect, for not getting over things quickly enough, for snapping at your co-worker, for . . . whatever. You deserve the same mercy, compassion and understanding as everyone else.

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself – the gift of freedom from negativity to the safety, comfort and joy of positivity and happiness.